Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle
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NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • “This book is a gift! I’ve been practicing their strategies, and it’s a total game changer.”—Brené Brown, PhD, author of Dare to Lead
“A primer on how to stop letting the world dictate how you live and what we think of ourselves, Burnout is essential reading [and] . . . excels in its intersectionality.”—Bustle
This groundbreaking book explains why women experience burnout differently than men—and provides a roadmap to minimizing stress, managing emotions, and living more joyfully.
Burnout. You, like most American women, have probably experienced it. What’s expected of women and what it’s really like to exist as a woman in today’s world are two different things—and we exhaust ourselves trying to close the gap. Sisters Emily Nagoski, PhD, and Amelia Nagoski, DMA, are here to help end the all-too-familiar cycle of feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. They compassionately explain the obstacles and societal pressures we face—and how we can fight back.
You’ll learn
• what you can do to complete the biological stress cycle
• how to manage the “monitor” in your brain that regulates the emotion of frustration
• how the Bikini Industrial Complex makes it difficult for women to love their bodies—and how to defend yourself against it
• why rest, human connection, and befriending your inner critic are keys to recovering from and preventing burnout
With the help of eye-opening science, prescriptive advice, and helpful worksheets and exercises, all women will find something transformative in Burnout—and will be empowered to create positive change.
A BOOKRIOT BEST BOOK OF THE YEAR
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Publisher : Random House Publishing Group; Reprint edition (January 7, 2020)
Language : English
Paperback : 304 pages
ISBN-10 : 1984818325
ISBN-13 : 978-1984818324
Item Weight : 8 ounces
Dimensions : 5 x 0.62 x 7.71 inches
Customers say
Customers find the book provides helpful insights and diagrams that help them understand better. They describe it as a good, enjoyable read that touches on universal themes for women. The feminist content is relatable and provides reasonable strategies for managing burnout. Readers appreciate the clear writing style and the authors’ skillful weaving of science with personal experiences.
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NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • “This book is a gift! I’ve been practicing their strategies, and it’s a total game changer.”—Brené Brown, PhD, author of Dare to Lead
“A primer on how to stop letting the world dictate how you live and what we think of ourselves, Burnout is essential reading [and] . . . excels in its intersectionality.”—Bustle
This groundbreaking book explains why women experience burnout differently than men—and provides a roadmap to minimizing stress, managing emotions, and living more joyfully.
Burnout. You, like most American women, have probably experienced it. What’s expected of women and what it’s really like to exist as a woman in today’s world are two different things—and we exhaust ourselves trying to close the gap. Sisters Emily Nagoski, PhD, and Amelia Nagoski, DMA, are here to help end the all-too-familiar cycle of feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. They compassionately explain the obstacles and societal pressures we face—and how we can fight back.
You’ll learn
• what you can do to complete the biological stress cycle
• how to manage the “monitor” in your brain that regulates the emotion of frustration
• how the Bikini Industrial Complex makes it difficult for women to love their bodies—and how to defend yourself against it
• why rest, human connection, and befriending your inner critic are keys to recovering from and preventing burnout
With the help of eye-opening science, prescriptive advice, and helpful worksheets and exercises, all women will find something transformative in Burnout—and will be empowered to create positive change.
A BOOKRIOT BEST BOOK OF THE YEAR
From the Publisher
Publisher : Random House Publishing Group; Reprint edition (January 7, 2020)
Language : English
Paperback : 304 pages
ISBN-10 : 1984818325
ISBN-13 : 978-1984818324
Item Weight : 8 ounces
Dimensions : 5 x 0.62 x 7.71 inches
by CJ
Great book!
Really helped me understand stress!
by KMac
Excellent, Insightful, and Impactful Book
Burnout is always a word that is thrown around, but not one that we spend much time exploring. This book explores burnout, combines stories and research to effectively share insights, and offers reasonable strategies for managing burnout.
by Beguiled By Books
Important for EVERYONE, not just women to read!
The word burnout crept up in my everyday use since 2019 â and then the pandemic hit. No travel. No casual shopping. No conferences. None of the usual ways to break up the days. Burnout, especially at work, snuck up on me. Much like my own burnout, Emily and Amelia Nagoski’s book, Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, snuck up on me too.”First coined as a technical term by Herbert Freudenberger in 1975, “burnout” was defined by three components:1. emotional exhaustionâthe fatigue that comes from caring too much, for too long;2. depersonalizationâthe depletion of empathy, caring, and compassion;3. decreased sense of accomplishmentâan unconquerable sense of futility: feeling that nothing you do makes any difference.Written with women in mind, Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle talks about the big and little stressors we experience daily â from the patriarchy (ugh) to the “second shift” most women have after work at home (house chores, caregiving). Compared to what it’s like to be a woman, what’s expected of women creates burnout without even realizing it. The authors discuss the Bikini Industrial Complex and the microaggressions women regularly experience for not looking, acting, or speaking in a certain way.Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle goes on to discuss how to complete the stress cycle. When we experience fight, flight, or freeze responses, our bodies react to those chemicals even though we are rarely in actual life-or-death experiences. The problems arise when we experience those reactions and don’t get the fulfillment of knowing we are no longer in a life-or-death situation.Too many women, especially women of color, grow up with unconscious biases about how we should behave, which is only exacerbated by others around us with unconscious biases. Before you know it, we’re working ourselves too much, developing physical symptoms from a life of microaggressions and minor stressors, and we reach a breaking point. A part of this book encourages you to be aware of times in your life when you need to move on from whatever is causing you stress.I appreciate a great deal about this book, but I loved how the authors didn’t promise your burnout will magically go away if you take luxurious baths every night or try and “lean in” at work more. The premise of Burnout empowers us to accept ourselves exactly as we are and know that we are enough.Buy Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle because we all need to work on unconscious biases around women at home, work, and in the world.
by R. Jones
Makes me angry
I got this book because I keep getting myself into situations where I am doing too much. This book helps me understand why, but it also gets me angry and it’s a little cheesy sometimes. Overall, it’s good, but it’s bit overhyped.What I want is to stop caring and to feel secure enough to stop constantly trying to prove myself.Instead of helping me reflect on my behaviors, this book blames the patriarchy. Yeah, that is part of the problem, but I can’t control that piece.
by Dawn
Mind blown
I have this on Audible (they narrate it wonderfully) and in paperback. I am a therapist and use the workbook as well. I am pleased that it doesn’t just tell what burn out is, but gives directions on how to combat it.
by Amazon Customer
Best book you’ll read as an adult woman
This book is everything. I’ve recommended it to every woman I’ve come across in my daily life that I think might benefit from reading it (translation: every woman I’ve come across in my daily life). I read it in under a week because it was really enjoyable and I made the time to do so (I was disappointed when it ended!!). I’ve reread it a second time and keep it on my desk as a constant reference and reminder of the topics addressed.The writing is approachable, fun, and relatable. They make the science-y bits easily digestible, the philosophy bits graspable, and the patriarchy (ugh) bits smashable. The topics covered are so universal for women in the 21st century that you really feel like they get it; it’s so nice to have your suspicions about some of your interpersonal interactions and society as a whole validated.This was my first experience of “self-help” book, and I loved it so much that I have read everything else Emily Nagoski has written (Come as You Are is a game changer and her fiction under the pen name Emily Foster is really great). Can’t recommend this book enough to anyone and everyone. It should be required reading for all women entering the workforce or any higher education; and honestly they should make it a requisite for girls to read before receiving their high school diploma or GED equivalency. Start ’em young so they can spot this stuff along the way and learn to deal with their stress before addressing their stressors!
by ST
What I Wish I Knew Before
This book is brilliant. It’s everything I wish I knew years ago. Every woman should read this. It doesn’t matter if you’re burnt out or not. Talking about stress, how to work through it, and how to understand yourself is vital for everyone’s well being.Many things that I doubted, questioned, and thought it was just me, I learned that research shows it isn’t just me. There’s nothing wrong with you, ladies. If you want to find out more about feeling more connected to yourself and others, I think this book is a good place to start.
by AL
Hard cover would’ve been a better option
At the moment, my review will be only about the cover, not the content itself since I just got it and haven’t read it.I usually go by the hard covers but in this case, I want with the paperback option since I liked the design more. I must say, it looks used. The front page has some foldings in the corner, the spine looks a bit pealed off.
by Alejandra
It helps me a lot to understand my self and my current mood. I can put my feeling in real context and accept my self with compassion and love. Thanks for writing this book.
by Amazon Customer
Definitely a must read and a re-read for whenever you need it. The authors have written this book in such an engaging way and explains complex topics so creative yet simply with lots of analogies that really suited me. Definitely think its a must read for anyone, who wants to understand and wants simple strategies to take home to improve your quality of life and stress cycle. You will come out feeling so empowered and validated!
by Jackie
This book spoke directly to me. Recommended reading for women especially, at anytime in one’s life– not only when feeling tired and burntout.
by Laura
DeberÃa haber leÃdo las reseñas antes de comprarlo. Este libro no es maravilloso, ni va a cambiarte la vida, por mucho que insistan en ponerlo en las reseñas de la portada y en repetirlo a lo largo del libro. “Le dije a X que hiciera esto y me dijo que le cambió la vida”, y solo porque está escrito este testimonio tengo que creérmelo. Y los consejos…..empieza hablando de verte atrapado en un atasco y continúa diciendo que todas las situaciones difÃciles son provechosas, entonces pasa a ejemplos cómo “hacer ejercicio es dificil pero te da músculos”, nunca jamás te explican cómo volver la situación del atasco provechosa. Más tarde, hablando del “Monitor” básicamente te dice que bajes tus expectativas, si algo no te va bien, baja tus expectativas. ¿en serio? Claro obviamente si bajo mis expectativas para que lo que tengo sea suficiente, pues tendré cero problemas. Es tan sencillo como ir conformándose por la vida… en fin. Y para rematarla intenta demostrarte que esto es eficaz, simplemente diciendo que una cantante que trabajaba con la autora le dijo “Eso del Monitor, eso de controlar las expectativas, ha cambiado mi vida, por completo!”Y solo llevo 39 páginas…HabÃa que desconfiar de un libro que tiene las portadas llenas de comentarios de gente que de lo exagerados que son me queda claro que son puro marketing, como que una tal Peggy Orenstein se echó a llorar de agradecimiento al leer el libro… Yo voy a llorar pero de lo poco útil que me resulta…Decepcionada 🙁
by FP
Easy reading, evidence based and well presented, humorous even! Looking at burnout through a feminist lens. Lots of practical tips and strategies for preventing and recovering from burnout.Three comments1) little info on burnout as a clinical entity. What is the exact definition? What causes it in the professional context (different references have talked about high responsibility, but little control and flexibility, long hours, hostile work environment)? Can antidepressants help? How long does it last?2) Would have been nice to see a chapter dedicated to motherhood, as I feel this is a definite contributor for many women. Working moms and SAHM can burn out.3) The chapter on the bikini industrial complex. Yes, healthcare and society have huge issues with fat shaming that need to be resolved. However, obesity is strongly associated with type 2 diabetes and metabolic syndrome, non alcoholic fatty liver disease, and coronary artery disease. A body that loses weight easily without effort may have cancer, cirrhosis, malabsorption, etc (the differential is literally pages long), so it isn’t surprising that low body weight is associated with mortality. A body that gains weight easily is almost always healthy (some exceptions like Cushing’s, hypothyroidism, medications, etc exist), especially in our sedentary, food abundant modern developed world. However, staying at a high weight with a high percentage of visceral body fat is associated with the chronic health conditions listed above. In very severe cases when bariatric surgery is used, we see major improvement in diabetes (some patients no longer need any medication afterwards, liver disease improves, etc. I’m sure the authors know this, but the chapter doesn’t tell the full story, which hurts its credibility imo.